I have been working with this client for a while
now and he has many issues that he wishes to talk about and work through,
mainly centring around his relationship with his now deceased father.
He is a 38 year old male, married with three children and works in the
engineering industry. Up until this session, we had been looking at how his
early years had shaped him into the person he is now and how he relates to
people, communicates with them and views the world in general. As he sat
down I asked him how he was feeling today.
He said he had been having lucid dreams about his father and upon the words
leaving his mouth he began to cry – something that he had never done in any
previous sessions. He sobbed, real, uncontrollable sobs as the tears poured
down his face. He didn't speak at all for the rest of the session and the sobbing
continued right until the end of the hour.
I didn't intervene, sensing that he needed this space and time to express his
sorrow and grief. As the end of the hour approached, he began to look at me
through his tears and the crying stopped. 'I've waited years to do that' he said.
Although we didn't work through feelings in a conversational way or
rationalise any of his thoughts, the session was a release for his grief and he
had felt comfortable enough to express this during the session, without fear of
ridicule, platitudes or restriction. He said he felt an enormous sense of relief
and that a weight had been lifted. We scheduled another session for next week
and after he had had a drink of water, he left.