Today, I was seeing a client that I had met for the first time last week. Her issues had
intrigued me and she was returning today after seeing her GP to check for any physical
causes of her black outs following consuming small amounts of alcohol when socializing
with her partner.
The client arrived on time looking rather pale and shaky.
After showing her to a seat, I asked her how she had been since I saw her last. She took a
deep breath and said that she had been to her GP last Friday, the day after our
appointment. She said she had been out with her partner last Thursday evening and the
same thing had happened again, leaving her waking in his apartment feeling terrified and
with a severe hangover.
The GP’s diagnosis
I gently asked her what her GP had said and after taking a few deep breaths, she told me
she was pregnant. I asked her how she felt about this as she had said at her last
appointment that she was not planning to have children at the moment. She said that that
wasn't all – her GP had asked to run blood tests and had found a substance in her system
that indicated she had been drugged with Ketamine (known as a 'date rape' drug).
The client took some time to compose herself as she was crying and unable to talk for a
while. I gave her the time and space to express her feelings and regain her composure
before asking her whether she had spoken to her partner about the pregnancy or the blood
She said that he had been away on business since Monday and that she had needed some
time to herself over the last weekend so had told him she was feeling ill and unable to see
him. She said he had been quite angry about this but had said that he would see her when
he arrived back from his business trip which was this evening.
13 weeks pregnant
I asked the client about her visit to the GP and she told me that her GP had explained the
time frame for the drug administration – it would have been the previous evening while
she was out with her partner and his friends.
She explained that she was now 13 weeks pregnant and was due to go for a scan in the next
week which she was dreading.
The client said she was planning to confront her partner this evening and ask him about
the drug and whether he had given her this so that they could have unprotected sex in
order to create a pregnancy – something that he had said he was keen to do as soon as
My first consideration has to be the safety of my client and although she clearly needed
answers from her partner, she may have been putting herself at risk by confronting him. If
he had been the one to administer a drug via her drink, then he may be capable of other
things. Also, she had no proof of his wrongdoing other than circumstantial evidence and it
could be detrimental to their relationship to accuse him without having any proof.
She said her GP had told her that it was highly likely that each black out had been caused
by the same substance in her system and as the blackouts had only occurred when she was
with her partner and his friends, it would certainly raise a suspicion about their activities.
I asked the client if she had ever been out with just her partner and whether this had
happened at those times. She said that she couldn't remember and became upset again.
When she had calmed down a little, I asked her if she intended to go to the police about
this. As she had evidence from her GP, the police could investigate and if necessary,
prosecute the person who had committed this offence.
The client said she didn't know if she could go through that although she had considered it.
We looked at how she might be supported by friends and family if she told them about her
situation and she said that although she couldn't face telling her parents, her best friend
would almost certainly support her if she confided in her.
I asked whether she was going to see her partner this evening and she said she didn't feel
she could at the moment as she was so confused, about both the drugging and the
By the time the session was due to come to an end, the client had resolved to speak to her
friend straight away and ask for her support in reporting the incident to the police later
I was confident that that client was not in any immediate danger and we arranged to meet
the following week at the same time as she felt she had so much that she wanted to talk
It never fails to surprise me, the wide ranging issues that client's bring to their sessions and
that they face every day of their lives. I am glad that I can play a small part in sitting
alongside them in a supportive role and enabling them to move forwards to a happier